I Am Going Through a Divorce Right Now
I currently house share with my soon to be ex wife until the divorce is finalised.
She has a boyfriend that she has been seeing for over a year and in the last two months he has met our children and he has stayed over at hour house when I am away.
So this morning she asked me if I was going out soon to sleep over at a friend's house because her boyfriend would like to come stay at our house, she added : ''it has been a bit since he saw the children'' (By that she meant our children and he saw them last week on Friday night). It bugged me immensely but I couldn't' quite put words on what it was. Then I realised what annoys me about it, it is that she is asking me the father of the children to allow them time with someone who isn't' their father.
Besides the obvious fact that she prioritises her boyfriend over me in our children's life, it also raises worries about her trying to make him a 'substitute father'.
She is a very aggressive and argumentative person, which forces me to take my time before answering any such situation. But I am concerned that she will try to undermine my role in the children's life as a father. Hopefully they can see through that.
She has a boyfriend that she has been seeing for over a year and in the last two months he has met our children and he has stayed over at hour house when I am away.
So this morning she asked me if I was going out soon to sleep over at a friend's house because her boyfriend would like to come stay at our house, she added : ''it has been a bit since he saw the children'' (By that she meant our children and he saw them last week on Friday night). It bugged me immensely but I couldn't' quite put words on what it was. Then I realised what annoys me about it, it is that she is asking me the father of the children to allow them time with someone who isn't' their father.
Besides the obvious fact that she prioritises her boyfriend over me in our children's life, it also raises worries about her trying to make him a 'substitute father'.
She is a very aggressive and argumentative person, which forces me to take my time before answering any such situation. But I am concerned that she will try to undermine my role in the children's life as a father. Hopefully they can see through that.
