My parents did, too... my mother divorced my "father" when I was 8 years old to "stop" him from "spanking" me to the point I was trying to hide bruises from teachers during PE lessons for weeks after the fact.
She wasn't much better herself, though - her way to cope with her children was to traumatise them for life, too. Yeah, I still bear the scars of her trying to "give" me to her aunt because I was annoying her.
You can't go better than traumatising children for the rest of their lives.
She wasn't much better herself, though - her way to cope with her children was to traumatise them for life, too. Yeah, I still bear the scars of her trying to "give" me to her aunt because I was annoying her.
You can't go better than traumatising children for the rest of their lives.
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ElwoodBlues · M
By "hard discipline," I assume you mean corporal punishment. Multiple studies show it doesn't work.
▶ Evidence shows corporal punishment increases children’s behavioural problems over time and has no positive outcomes.
▶ All corporal punishment, however mild or light, carries an inbuilt risk of escalation. Studies suggest that parents who used corporal punishment are at heightened risk of perpetrating severe maltreatment.
▶ Corporal punishment is linked to a range of negative outcomes for children across countries and cultures, including physical and mental ill-health, impaired cognitive and socio-emotional development, poor educational outcomes, increased aggression and perpetration of violence.
https://www.who.int/news-room/fact-sheets/detail/corporal-punishment-and-health
▶ Evidence shows corporal punishment increases children’s behavioural problems over time and has no positive outcomes.
▶ All corporal punishment, however mild or light, carries an inbuilt risk of escalation. Studies suggest that parents who used corporal punishment are at heightened risk of perpetrating severe maltreatment.
▶ Corporal punishment is linked to a range of negative outcomes for children across countries and cultures, including physical and mental ill-health, impaired cognitive and socio-emotional development, poor educational outcomes, increased aggression and perpetration of violence.
https://www.who.int/news-room/fact-sheets/detail/corporal-punishment-and-health
bijouxbroussard · F
@ElwoodBlues 💯
Strictgram · 70-79, C
@ElwoodBlues All anti discipline research is undertaker by biased, anti cp zealots. First they reach a conclusion then look for so called evidence to make their point. Don't fall for their propaganda and dishonesty.
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@Diotrephes Maybe she disciplines him. 🤷♂
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updown2020 · 61-69, M
Yes I agree with you parents need to get back to discipline .
Diotrephes · 70-79, M
@updown2020
IMO, the objective should be to teach the kids that their actions can have serious consequences that can cost them their lives or freedom. So, the aim should be to teach them to make rational decisions but to give them the freedom to make those decisions, depending on their age.
Some of the best advice parents can give their children on a repetitive basis is found in Proverbs 1:10-19 https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=proverbs%201%3A10-19&version=ERV
And then discuss what bad things happen to other kids when they make bad decisions. Such as using drugs, driving recklessly, having unprotected sex, etc. Show them the homeless and point out that they could end up like that if they don't get a good education and develop job skills. And then have them pick out their casket and write their obituary.
But teach then that their future depends on them making the proper decisions on their own and that you can't make them for them. Their lives are their own reponsibility.
Yes I agree with you parents need to get back to discipline .
IMO, the objective should be to teach the kids that their actions can have serious consequences that can cost them their lives or freedom. So, the aim should be to teach them to make rational decisions but to give them the freedom to make those decisions, depending on their age.
Some of the best advice parents can give their children on a repetitive basis is found in Proverbs 1:10-19 https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=proverbs%201%3A10-19&version=ERV
And then discuss what bad things happen to other kids when they make bad decisions. Such as using drugs, driving recklessly, having unprotected sex, etc. Show them the homeless and point out that they could end up like that if they don't get a good education and develop job skills. And then have them pick out their casket and write their obituary.
But teach then that their future depends on them making the proper decisions on their own and that you can't make them for them. Their lives are their own reponsibility.
in10RjFox · M
@Diotrephes even parents need discipline that their actions have serious consequences.. but they just fvck around to produce serious consequences and then punish the consequence in the name of disciplining !
Is there any proverb for children to give best advice to their parents?
Is there any proverb for children to give best advice to their parents?
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Strictmichael75 · 61-69, M
Good
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Pfuzylogic · M
@HumanEarth
Some people can’t discipline at all.
Some people can’t discipline at all.
MartinII · 70-79, M
@HumanEarth That, of course, is not discipline.
@Guardian There's a right way and a wrong way to teach "discipline", though. I'm only just starting to accept that, not only was a lot of the "discipline" I received as a child abusive... but, a lot of what I witnessed my friends go through was abusive, too.
You don't throw your son across the room into the sofa by one arm to "discipline" him.
You don't humiliate your daughter to "discipline" her.
You don't cause a child to fear you as a means of "discipline"
No child should have to dissociate to protect themselves from their parents.
You don't throw your son across the room into the sofa by one arm to "discipline" him.
You don't humiliate your daughter to "discipline" her.
You don't cause a child to fear you as a means of "discipline"
No child should have to dissociate to protect themselves from their parents.
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RedBaron · M
As long as it doesn’t cross the line to become physical and emotional abuse.
pdockal · 56-60, M
How hard ?????
Houdini · 56-60, M
What is hard discipline
DownTheStreet · 56-60, M
Are you disciplined?
Strict4u · 56-60, M
Do you discipline or get disciplined?
ToriTalking · 18-21, F
Just for children or for parents too?
bijouxbroussard · F
SinlessOnslaught · M
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