Do you, or did you plan to have kids?

If so, how many and when did you start having them?

If not, was there a particular reason?

I'm sorry if this is a triggering question.

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DarthInvader · 36-40, M

I once wanted a big family, more than ten kids. But I avoided having children because, growing up, I showed the same short temper as my father. I resented him in my youth, and I didn’t want to raise kids who might grow up resenting me the same way.

Mellowgirl · 31-35, F

@DarthInvader aww bless you I used to say I wanted 6 kids. I probably would have if I started at 19. But I think I'll be happy with what I get really.
I understand, I think if you really wanted to have children with something your temper is something you can work on.

You're already part of the way there by identifying you have similarities to your dad, but also that resentment.

This isn't me pushing you, just saying your past shouldn't have to dictate your future.