Horzes · 22-25, F
Hi , I dont know you or your finically situation but I hope you get to move out some day. My advice is to just spend as much time as you can doing stuff for yourself , doing stuff you love , doing stuff away from your house. The more time you spend away , the more it will improve your mental health. It could be anything , it doesnt have to cost an lot of money , it could be free such as going to the library or going for an walk in the park. Or it could be low cost , such as going for an coffee or going to the gym or joining an club.
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HermannFegelein · 26-30, M
@jshm2 In Arizona you can, Arizona is a one-party consent state. I know my rights as an Arizonan.
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Lol….. and if the psychologist says he’s a narcissist then what? Sounds like a lot of energy that could be spent elsewhere.
HermannFegelein · 26-30, M
@OlderSometimesWiser It won’t change him. People can only change themselves. It will allow me to get an outsiders perspective. All I know is my point of view. I could be wrong, but what I do know is that he’s extremely toxic. I’m already saving money to leave.
I don’t believe he’s completely heartless. He just doesn’t know how to deal with his emotions, particularly his anger.
He doesn’t want to confront his toxic behavior.
I’ve had money saved in the past to leave but I’ve been manipulated into thinking I couldn’t make it out there. That was back then, now I’m more determined than ever to just take that leap. I just gotta wait a few more months.
My father needs healing but I can’t and won’t continue to be his emotional and physical punching bag.
He’s dialed it down with the physical stuff now that I’m older but in the past he used to kick me, shake me like a rag doll, throw me, yank my ear really hard, smack me in the face, push me.
My oldest brother and my mom got it the worst.
I don’t believe he’s completely heartless. He just doesn’t know how to deal with his emotions, particularly his anger.
He doesn’t want to confront his toxic behavior.
I’ve had money saved in the past to leave but I’ve been manipulated into thinking I couldn’t make it out there. That was back then, now I’m more determined than ever to just take that leap. I just gotta wait a few more months.
My father needs healing but I can’t and won’t continue to be his emotional and physical punching bag.
He’s dialed it down with the physical stuff now that I’m older but in the past he used to kick me, shake me like a rag doll, throw me, yank my ear really hard, smack me in the face, push me.
My oldest brother and my mom got it the worst.
@HermannFegelein I’m very sorry for all you’ve experienced. But glad that knowing he’s extremely toxic is providing the motivation you need to make those important changes of standing up for yourself, becoming independent and moving out on your own. I wish you all the best moving forward.
HermannFegelein · 26-30, M
@OlderSometimesWiser thanks. I may even try to find other survivors of this type of abuse to roommate with once I get my own place.