Is it fair to ask her

So Joel has his son every other week and every weekend.

The weeks he has him he spends most evenings with us but goes home for the night. He's a butcher and goes to work at 4:30 am. So if he stayed the night here during the week it would mean Star would have to get his boy up and ready for school. He goes to the same school as my son. But would it be fair to even ask her to do this. His son is 9 but is special needs. He needs a bit more help getting ready then my son does. I just don't know if I should even ask her.

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HootyTheNightOwl

What do you have to lose???

The worst that can happen is that she says "No", in which case Joel will have to find an alternative anyway - so that's no biggie.

If she does say "Yes", it's experience of caring for a child with additional needs.

I see no point in depriving her of the option to choose for herself in whether she wants to do this and practicing communication abilities - i.e saying "No" if it's something she doesn't want to do.

Cigarguy101 · 41-45, M

@HootyTheNightOwl well if she said no, Joel would just go home in the evening. But she didn't say no. She was very happy we asked. She of course will be paid extra for the nights his son his here

HootyTheNightOwl

@Cigarguy101 Lol, I only just noticed that this was posted almost a week ago...

I'm glad that you did ask her and let her decide for herself, though - it's a good chance to get experience that she will need as an adult, be it through looking after Joel's son or saying "No" if it was something she didn't want to do... both are equally important to practice to avoid getting to the point where you don't just say "Yes" to everything and become burned out from back-to-back shifts at work, or something like that.

The overtime money might be nice, but you won't enjoy it as much if you're getting up, going to work, coming home, eating, going to bed and getting up to do it all over again tomorrow. Though I didn't work overtime, I have been in the position where work was draining me to the point where I couldn't have any life outside of work. I wasn't sorry when I was ultimately fired because I had a miscarriage and didn't turn up to work again.