Is it fair to ask her

So Joel has his son every other week and every weekend.

The weeks he has him he spends most evenings with us but goes home for the night. He's a butcher and goes to work at 4:30 am. So if he stayed the night here during the week it would mean Star would have to get his boy up and ready for school. He goes to the same school as my son. But would it be fair to even ask her to do this. His son is 9 but is special needs. He needs a bit more help getting ready then my son does. I just don't know if I should even ask her.

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Musicman · 61-69, M

I have always believed that we should be able to ask any question. I also believe Star should have the full right to say no. Has Star ever mentioned being overwhelmed taking care of your children in the morning or afternoon? I would ask. I would also let her know that she is under no obligation to say yes. Then like you said to another user I would also let her know upfront that you would fully compensate her for this extra work/responsibility. Personally I always thought you and Star would get together. 🤷‍♂️

Cigarguy101 · 41-45, M

@Musicman no she has never said she's overwhelmed. She doesn't wake the kids in the evening. I pick them up from school.

She is about 20 years younger than me. I see her as a daughter lol so no we'd never get together.

I did her and she said took you long enough. She said yes.