After having some issues with discipline and how to handle things around the house, I’ve asked people for some advice and suggestions. I don’t have kids of my own, I’m a pretty fresh stepmother, so please be nice to me and don’t judge on the spot, this is coming from love and I want a home that everyone can enjoy staying in.
That being said, this has been a house with a busy dad and two girls 11 and 13. So it’s not very structured. The best advice I’ve gotten so far is to not have specific rules on every behavior but use five pillars that can be used and referred to in most situations and make them the house rules.
You will get tons of advice from people who don't know you, the girls, their Dad, or the dynamics at play in the home. There are many factors that will influence the best approach. I'd start be gaining their trust and modelling the behavior you want them to show.
Those 3D's are spot on. I suggest adding "Accountability", since that is something we all need to have.
Whatever methods you choose, I suggest both you and their father be 100% on the same page. Because if you aren't, those kids will find a window and manipulate and play you both. They do that LOL. Or can.
