After having some issues with discipline and how to handle things around the house, I’ve asked people for some advice and suggestions. I don’t have kids of my own, I’m a pretty fresh stepmother, so please be nice to me and don’t judge on the spot, this is coming from love and I want a home that everyone can enjoy staying in.
That being said, this has been a house with a busy dad and two girls 11 and 13. So it’s not very structured. The best advice I’ve gotten so far is to not have specific rules on every behavior but use five pillars that can be used and referred to in most situations and make them the house rules.
You're beautiful. A lot of teenage _boys_ would _love_ to find themselves under the supervision of a caring but strict stepmom like you, as long as your strictness stayed caring and sensitive, and you used your beauty to its advantage (and your husband was OK with that).
Most teenage girls, likely not so much...
Maybe your husband has siblings who have sons who might possibly find they have a deep appreciation for a friendly but strict hot step-aunt?
@lisad1975x Very different from what I’m asking advice on.
I might be very wrong, and sometimes people probably see me as stupid, but I actually taught that most parents would want kids that were honest and didn’t lye. So 1.Dishonesty would of course be a rule in every household?
And I would think most parents would want their children to follow their advice and listen to their parents, as it’s usually for their kids best interests, so of course you have rules on 2. Disobedience. And you don’t want your kids to bully others and you want them to grow up to be people who are generally able to co exist with others, so you don’t want them to be disrespectful, therefore it’s natural to have a rule on: 3. Disrespect And you want them to be able to get a job, finish school and take care of themselves and hopefully get a partner and some kids so you would want them to be responsible kids and do the things that are expected of them, so you should have a rule on that: 4. Irresponsibility And you do want them to show up for work and school and do a good job and get their kids up in the morning and to school every day, not just when they feel like it, so you will need to teach them 5. Inconsistency
But I might be stupid to think this is what parents want for their children now days?
@HelenJohnson this sounds like pretty normal rules to me. And we have the normal curfew and bedtime as well. But I guess most other stuff will be covered with those. Sounds like your pretty normal to me
