After having some issues with discipline and how to handle things around the house, I’ve asked people for some advice and suggestions. I don’t have kids of my own, I’m a pretty fresh stepmother, so please be nice to me and don’t judge on the spot, this is coming from love and I want a home that everyone can enjoy staying in.
That being said, this has been a house with a busy dad and two girls 11 and 13. So it’s not very structured. The best advice I’ve gotten so far is to not have specific rules on every behavior but use five pillars that can be used and referred to in most situations and make them the house rules.
I don’t have any particular experience of those specific pillars but they seem very sensible. I do think, though, that the number one priority is to establish 100% agreement between you and their dad. If the kids are going to feel secure they need to know that your relationship is strong. To check that out, they will test the relationship and will home in on any perceived weak links.
