Damn, I wish I knew what to say. I will say this though your problems aren't just your problems millions of mothers struggle with wait gain not only from giving birth to a kid but also from constantly taking care of some that needs to eat so you probably took short cuts like everyone else with fast food or highly processed stuff from the grocery store because those things are what keeps kids happy. And then at the end of the day you are too tired to walk let alone get dressed to go to the gym. I get your problems and i think most people understand it.