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How do I ignore what my family tells me?

How do I not let my families mean words effect me? My grandmas sisters grand daughter is living with us and she has for a while but cince i had my first child she has been very mean to me and I dont understand why? I have talked to her about it and she says she dosent want to talk about it. I would be okay with that if she didnt try to insult me or my husband every chance she gets. She says things like I have gained weight or my slippers are too noisy or i shouldnt be carrying so much i might drop it all. She is very negative and im just telling myself a million positive things over and over again and its not helping.
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Casheyane · 31-35, F
First, decide who you are. Who you wish to be. Say it to the mirror. Everyday. Positive things.
Second, stop them from saying bad words to you. Don't let them get away. If it's your house, then all the more they should be careful to not offend.
Don't tolerate a toxic behavior (not even in the name of family) in your presence. Call them out and let them reflect on their own behavior.
Real family don't let you be offended without doing anything. If people let others get away with treating you bad, something is wrong.

If they are unhappy with their life, then they should work on it. But if she wants to be in your presence, be brave enough to defend yourself and tell them their behavior and words are unacceptable. The door is open and they can go out.

I'm saying it nicely. But in layman's term, learn to kick ass of bullies.
it might just be your false perception she is negative, she could just be trying to help in her own way.
@greenknight well i do agree that she is trying to help. I do think im fat I agree with her but she dosent need to bring it up it makes me feel bad, she has no advice for me to loose weight other then telling me to exercise more. I hate exercise and i know thats why im fat.
YoMomma ·
so she's being hateful.. why is she living there? tell her off or that she can move out
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@Girlyfriendcollecting What a terrible situation. Since you don't need her as a babysitter as you and your husband have different shifts, can you tell her she has to leave? She has no right being so dominant in your own house. I would tell her this is not working, you're going to have to find another place to live, because this really cannot continue for your own sake. You shouldn't suffer because of her. But then that's a terrible situation anyway because you do need her to watch the kids so that your husband can get some sleep when he gets home from work. Is there any way you can afford a babysitter? This woman has to stop.
Confined · 56-60, M
@LadyGrace I agree. Tell her to pack her bags and get out!
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