Why does my mom go insane anytime I bring up that she and my dad should get a will for the house.

Or if I bring up my wishes that I can live in the house when they are gone. (I've lived with them most of my life and still do) I consider this my home. I've never been married, never had a real partner. I've struggled my whole life trying to make more money. They see this. But have no understanding of why I'd be better off in life here with a house my dad's father ended up paying off years ago. It is paid off and the only bills we have are internet and electric. They make up excuses that I won't be able to afford it, or like my mom mentioned tonight that I wouldn't keep it up or mow the grass. I told her no one has asked me to mow. Plus I'd be taking care of it more than they do. Weeds are completely overgrown in the garden. I'm about to take care of that myself soon. I trim the ivy off couple times a year. I'm the one taking care of ant problems we have. They sit and watch tv all day long while I'm washing dishes or dusting and whatever else. Why would a parent wish for me to be homeless versus just living in the house I've always known my whole life. It's not even a sensitive subject, but she treats it like it is!! Gets so irate when it is brought up

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Jenny1234 · 56-60, F

Could be a couple of reasons.

maybe they intend to sell it and use the money for themselves down the road.

But my first thought is you are in your 40s and they’re probably frustrated at your lack of independence. They’re older and trust me they want to see you become independent. And maybe they even just want time to themselves after raising you for 40 years. As a parent, I can understand completely why they would want that. As much as they love you, parenting is emotionally, physically and financially exhausting.

Perhaps you should start taking responsibility on your own initiative, without being asked, and start taking care of the house and doing all the cooking and cleaning and yardwork and show them that you can do it. You Should also be paying rent as well.

swandfriends · 41-45, F

I think I already mentioned in the post that I do a lot around here. My mom is a hoarder and you have no idea how many hours I have spent organizing and cleanimg over the years, plus, washimg their dishes, being the main one that takes out the trash, cutting down the ivy couole timed a year so it won't take control of the whole front porch. I used to mow every once in a while. But in the recent years I haven't been asked to. It's not like I wouldn't do it if I was the one totally responsible for this place. Anyway, even if I do get another place again someday, it won't be my real home. This is my real home and I would definitely do a lot more around here with yard work and cleaning than they do.

Jenny1234 · 56-60, F

@swandfriends why do you have to wait to be asked? Your parents aren’t young and are probably dealing with alot of mental fatigue and other issues if they are hoarders. They may need to use the money from the house for long term care as people are living a lot longer these days.

What is the reason you can’t support yourself?