Who do you blame if kids grew up mess up?
I would say my best friend and her brother are pretty mess up. She told me that they are who they are because they grew up with bad parenting. They had slept with each other.
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HappyCamper74 · M
Although many things in our early childhood development play a part in our attitudes and actions. Once children grow into adulthood, it's up to them as to how they want to live and the actions they take moving forward. The blame game can be passed on to many different things or influences; parents, friends, teachers, preachers, environment and experiences. Any of these can bring developmental changes in a child, teen or adult. The ultimate responsibility ends on the individual though.
You say your friend is messed up. She and her brother share a bond now through incest. They are both consenting adults now. If they want to change, that's up to them. One or the other may remove themselves from the others life, if that's what they choose to do. That's really their call. Perhaps they just enjoy each other. Perhaps they simply enjoy having an incestuous relationship with each other. It really isn't our place to say whether they are messed up or wrong for doing what they do.
Perhaps others feel that an open relationship is messed up? Maybe society looks down on sharing your boyfriend with your bestfriend. It's really no one else's business. If it works for you, as a concerning adult, it's your choice to live that way.
Just be accepting to the love your friend and brother share. You do not have to agree.
You say your friend is messed up. She and her brother share a bond now through incest. They are both consenting adults now. If they want to change, that's up to them. One or the other may remove themselves from the others life, if that's what they choose to do. That's really their call. Perhaps they just enjoy each other. Perhaps they simply enjoy having an incestuous relationship with each other. It really isn't our place to say whether they are messed up or wrong for doing what they do.
Perhaps others feel that an open relationship is messed up? Maybe society looks down on sharing your boyfriend with your bestfriend. It's really no one else's business. If it works for you, as a concerning adult, it's your choice to live that way.
Just be accepting to the love your friend and brother share. You do not have to agree.