Why would my dad react this way? I was in the kitchen getting some coffee and he came in too, I...

I have a daughter on the autism spectrum and she can frown or smile all she wants.
I don't find it really normal to get so upset about it.
It kind of sounds like he's projecting his own way of preceiving the world on you.
I sometimes do ask her if she's okay which I think irritates after the third time so I've tried to understand that her frowning doesn't have much to do with being upset.
Sometimes she does that when she's concentrating.

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SinlessOnslaught · M

I don't know your dad but usually when someone reacts like that it's because something got them feeling defensive, and they go on interpreting everything as a personal attack, like a smile can appear to be "laughing at them". That's what it sounds like from my point of view although I don't know everything.

It wasn't your fault.

Roadsterrider · 56-60, M

No, it isn't weird to be pleased to see someone or to smile at them. As a dad, I am usually happy to see my kids even though they are grown and on their own. If I find myself snapping or just being grumpy in general, a little self reflection will confirm it is something eating me, not the kids or grand kids..

ScreamingFox · 41-45, F

Sounds like your dad is not an understanding person.

My heart melts when someone smiles at me. Especially my child. so his reaction is weird, but that's how a lot of people act when they're feeling weird about themselves.

I'm sorry you felt uncomfortable. He should of smiled back.

LadyGrace

NO. NOT WEIRD AT ALL. A VERY NORMAL THING TO DO. Sounds like he has issues with himself, not you. I thought what he said to you was strange as if it's a crime to smile at people.