Resentments of my wife's choices, and a realization

From time to time I feel resentful about things in my life that would be different and more agreeable to me if I weren't accommodating my wife's preferences. These are not big things in the big picture, but they come to mind periodically. One is that in this summer weather I would be hanging out laundry on a clothesline, outdoors. Another is that we would be living in a smaller house, probably a rental so that we would not have so much responsibility for maintenance. Another is that we would pay some nice person to come and do some house cleaning regularly.
So I just realized that all of this adds up to: I'd like it if things were more like in my family when I was a kid growing up!
So I think I have some growing up to do :D

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LadyGrace ·

@ThePatientAnarchist I don't know, but from what I've read in your replies, communication could be better and should be worked on, but it seems like you're giving in for the sake of comfort and that's not fair to you, either. The whole idea of compromise is to reach middle ground, where you can both be happy, without one dominating or making the final decision, but working on it together. The trick is to be completely honest with each other without being afraid to do so. It sounds like your issues can be resolved, with a bit more work. I honestly have to say that it sounds like she could do more compromising. So It won't always be her way. And I'm wondering if you're putting a lot of the blame on yourself, just to keep the peace.

My best suggestion would be https://similarworlds.com/family/broken-family/5323892-BROKEN-RELATIONSHIP-HELP-INCLUDING-MARRIAGE-CHALLENGES

Father God, thank you for changing and molding us. You will do the work, as we open our hearts to accept it and your help, as we put you first in our lives. We can never do that kind of work on ourselves that you can do. Sometimes all we can say is "peace be still" and "your will be done". Then give it to you by faith, and allow you to work on our behalf. In Jesus's name I pray, Amen.

I will keep you in my prayers. We serve an awesome God, that can do awesome things. He's in the miracle business. And he wants Harmony in our lives. The key is to put Jesus first and foremost in all we do, as he is head of the family. He will honor that.

ThePatientAnarchist · 61-69

@LadyGrace Thank you for your helpful suggestions and kind words!

LadyGrace ·

@ThePatientAnarchist You're welcome.