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It doesn’t make you a bad person. It makes you a human being with feelings about things that hurt you. I’d suggest moving beyond subtle by letting her know that while you’re happy about her family situation, it hurts hearing about it because you’re not so fortunate. If she continues on in talking about it despite your being blunt, then it might be time to rethink the friendship and back away from her. Because someone who’s insensitive about your feelings does not make a good friend.
DeluxedEdition · 26-30, F

twistedrope · 26-30, M
You are not a bad person. I feel uncomfortable when people talk about things I'm very sensitive of. I say things like "That's very uncomfortable for me. Mind if we talk about something else?" It may sound selfish but it is necessary.

If she can't handle that O.o the friendship was doomed from the start. Everyone should be able to handle another persons boundary.
dale74 · M
It's called jealousy because she has something that you don't have. It is a normal reaction but it's how you channel your energy it can be positive instead of negative. If you become such good friends explain to her that you would like to know what it's like to have good family hang out with her and her parents believe it or not most good parents would adopt you and treat you about like their daughter. It's true they're not your actual parents but you could still get that closeness with hers.
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Midlifemale · 61-69, M
Oh no....your friendship with her is mostly about her life and not your the friendship you both have...that's too much but she is too centered on her life...I would be annoyed also.
Step away from her for awhile...and she'll realize how much your friendship means to her when you're not there for her
YoMomma ·
You should tell her point blank.. quite frankly maybe her patients smoother her and all her bragging to you is a deep complaint idk she may not be aware that she is making you feel bad which is inconsiderate of her.. so just tell her outright.. don't hint, be direct
in10RjFox · M
Actually you should start using reverse psychology. And start saying

- I would hate a mother like that
- luckily my parents are not alive.. i would not have let them be so protective about me. I know you are acting like you like the way your parents treat you.. are you ok ?
- I would love to peep into the room while parents have sex.

And keep annoying her by inventing stories about fictional friends like you were chatting and they said this.
Matt85 · 36-40, M
no. i think it would be a shame to ruin such a strong friendship though.
Silversmith · 26-30, M
No. That just means that your friend is kind of insensitive to how it makes you feel.
Infamous607 · 46-50, M
I wouldnt say bad. But thats her experience. Thats what she knows. What do you want her to talk about?
Not at all. Just makes you another human being.

 
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