Actual conversation with my father that just happened

Me: “My pepper plants hadn’t produced yet and so the deer ate them it’s a shame.”

Him: “I don’t know why you spend so much time worrying about those plants”

Me: “I like watching things grow and eating my own food”

Him: “You can just buy peppers cheap”

Me: “Not everything is about money”

Him: “I know that! But you’re doing all this work to try and save $10 a year??”

Like…it sounds like you actually don’t know that. Why do I even bother talking 🤣🤣

I joke but he does actually value money above anything else even his family

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SlaveEt · 36-40, F

"... he does actually value money above anything else even his family"

Is this an assumption or has he told you this?

Many men view providing for their family as a demonstration of their affection. The more work, effort, time, etc they give up to make the money their family needs, the more deeply they care. People don't say "I love you" the same way and sometimes it can be hard to understand if you don't look closely. Something to think about🤷‍♀

PalteseMalconFunch · 36-40, T

@SlaveEt I appreciate that sentiment and wanting to see the best in people

But he’s had 40 years to prove that to me over and over again

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PalteseMalconFunch · 36-40, T

@SlaveEt Yea it is a rough deal I guess. Not sure though. He’s always been awful and cruel, my mother was physically abusive

I didn’t grow up with any siblings in my life really so I don’t really know what “family” feels like

I know there’s some huge part of life I missed out on with them but at the same time I don’t know what I’m missing

SlaveEt · 36-40, F

@PalteseMalconFunch
Not all are blessed with a good first family but happily, as we grow older and wiser, we get to build our own chosen family. I hope you find/have found those worth building such relationships with.