My mom on hospice just went to a home

I have been taking care of my 84 year old mom on hospice and working full time for the last 2 years. She just had to go to a nursing home yesterday because she needs so much more care than I can do. I feel like such a failure. She wanted to die at home. We had different people come to the house to help and now no one will come and I feel like I am all alone now.

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Adogslife · 61-69, M

The elderly often need care that can’t and shouldn’t be provided at home. That’s where the nursing home steps in.

You’re far from a failure. You just have to realize that at a certain point others need to help you. Those others are professionals.

Nurses are paid to care and, generallly speaking, do an amazing job. The CNAs are unspoken heroes too. They have to do the tough stuff and for dramatically less money.