YOU.... Are an ANGEL! There's no way loved ones can continue to take care of their critically ill loved ones, I'm so sorry to say, and not kill themselves physically and emotionally, doing it. My sister will soon be facing the same. It just cannot be done. We don't have that kind of strength or endurance. Please, do not condemn yourself for this. You are not super human. In no way, shape, or form, are you a failure! I feel so sad for your position in this. So many face this today. You're not alone honey. 😭😘🙏🙏🙏🫂🫂🫂 ❤❤❤ I'm so sorry for your pain. We love you and you can always talk to us okay? Always. And I'm so sorry your mother is having to go through this. There was nothing more you could do my dear. You had no choice. You did your ultimate best. And I know your mother knows that. And no one can blame you. You did not put your mother in a nursing home. There was no other workable alternative solution. My heart sure goes out to you. I wish I could take your pain away. Please don't blame yourself. Think of it this way because it's true. Since your poor body could not possible handle anymore, she is gaining more professional care and help that you are not equipped at home to give her. I'm sure your mother realizes this. I feel deep down in her heart she knows this and she wants you to know that she understands this. If I put myself in your mother's place, that's what I would tell you. I would be very proud that you took care of me all that time and sacrificed so much. And if your mother is coherent, I'm sure she feels the same way. She does understand. She will know that she can get even more advanced care at the nursing home. She will have people around her 24/7 taking great care of her and loving her. That is so good. And you can go see her anytime you want. It's time for you to rest and better care of yourself now. To get the rest you so badly need. There's no way you could keep up with all the lifting and medicine dispensing and washing clothes and sheets. You know that, I hope. It's time for you to take good care of yourself so you don't start going downhill, and that way you can relax and be refreshed when you visit your mom.
You know, dying at home is not all its cracked up to be either. It is a learning experience which exasperates both parties in various ways. Making some even feel suicidal. And the one who is dying feels so bad because they don't want to burden their family. It's really a bad situation for both parties. Nursing homes are better prepared for on the spot emergencies and can make the persons experience much more comfortable as family gathers around. You have given your mother the gift of giving your ultimate best in both situations. They will carry on where you just could not afford to damage your body any longer. This has been a long journey for you and your mother and God will help with the rest as you trust in him and allow him to help. He will definitely help you both through the adjustments. And just think honey, she'll be monitored 24/7 and that should help you sleep better at night. She'll continue to get clean sheets every day, her meds continued to be given on time, and be pampered. God bless you for your dedication and faithfulness to your mother. You sure did take the greatest care of her and I know she's so proud of you and so are we!
Please try to get some rest and take great care of yourself because we love you and we're here for you okay? Anytime you need to talk you can get hold of myself or talk to people here in the forum. We are there for you. I love you.
