My mom on hospice just went to a home

I have been taking care of my 84 year old mom on hospice and working full time for the last 2 years. She just had to go to a nursing home yesterday because she needs so much more care than I can do. I feel like such a failure. She wanted to die at home. We had different people come to the house to help and now no one will come and I feel like I am all alone now.

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ChipmunkErnie · 70-79, M

You are not a failure. I know that feeling of loneliness as my wife of 40+ years has dementia and it's getting harder and harder to take care of her. We were always there for each other, but now she wants to be there for me, but really she can't do much of anything any more. But it is not a failure on your part, it's just life and there is nothing much we can do about it. :( In the nursing home at least she's be taken care of. I know some day my wife will have to go into care, as he Mom did before her. It's hard to face up to, but we can do nothing else and it's for the best.

carpediem · 61-69, M

@ChipmunkErnie So sorry to hear you are going through this. My wife of 44 years had Alzheimer's and I know exactly what you're experiencing. She passed away a year and a half ago. Good luck as the road ahead is a tough one.

ChipmunkErnie · 70-79, M

@carpediem Thank you.