My mom on hospice just went to a home

I have been taking care of my 84 year old mom on hospice and working full time for the last 2 years. She just had to go to a nursing home yesterday because she needs so much more care than I can do. I feel like such a failure. She wanted to die at home. We had different people come to the house to help and now no one will come and I feel like I am all alone now.

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HootyTheNightOwl

Be gentle with yourself, you did the best you could alongside working full time at the same time.

Like you pointed out, caring is a tough thankless job and almost all of the time, the support just isn't there - or what support you can get just evaporates on you.

Even family and friends don't come around as much when you "seem" to be coping - not realising that conditions deteriorate and needs change... and the fact that you don't need help today, doesn't mean that you won't appreciate a little help tomorrow.