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Do you believe that a parent is entitled to have contact with their adult child/children

or that they need to earn it?

After you’ve grown up and a shitty parent asks, pleads, demands your attention, do you give it?

Do you think oh, they gave me life, I should appreciate that and overlook the abuse/neglect/whatever because they thought they were doing their best?

Or do you say well damn, they should have educated themselves and done some introspection and some work so that they could have done better, and not caused me so much pain, and my life is better off without them in it, so they can just bugger off?
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It should be earned, for sure.

Speaking from experience: My mom expected me to hate my bio dad even tho I never met him, and to love her. I secretly met my dad once (making the total amount of times I met him twice) and he had every chance to talk shit about my mom, but chose not to)

Meanwhile, my mom is extremely toxic, but I'm too scared of her to cut her out of my life.

(Bio dad died from cancer exactly one week after I met him, sadly, so I never got a chance to have a relationship with him)
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@Akimbo75 If it's your sons desicion based on his own experience, that's fair. Might as well tell him the truth as you know it then.