How did you learn how to handle failure as a child ??

My dad kept calling us failures, we learnt how to deal with it. Not proving him anything. Did our own thing. And completely disfunked him up, my brother became a successful chauffeur business man, my other brother became a hotel manager, and I became an Irish speaking preschool teacher! Haven't spoken to that man in 8 years. Liberation from a narcissistic parent is paramount!