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My 23 and Me results

are in. My mother has never done anything right by me except letting me get away from her 12 days before my 17 birthday. Lying to me about who my father is shouldn’t really shock me but I am shocked and I’m so mad! 😡 I don’t even know what to do with myself.
No, I’m not okay. 😭
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Sapio · 51-55, M
I'm sorry that you're going through this and I feel your anger. My mother, actually adoptive mother, hid from me for close 49 years that I was adopted. Ancestry DNA confirmed it. I have a pretty good understanding of what you're going through. I was pissed too, and I wasn't okay also. Such news knocks you off of your horse.

I hope that you might have a chance to locate your biological father or at least some cousins that can point you in the right direction.
SW-User
@Sapio ya that’s horrible, why keep secrets from kids, doesn’t make sense to me. I mean for adopted kids, sure wait until they’re a young adult to let them know, but tell them.

Did you ever find your bio parents?
Sapio · 51-55, M
@SW-User no, I am yet to locate them, but I have found a few cousins of mine. I reached out to one and he contacted me back. But he was also adopted. However, he knew the family names of his real parents. He was told at a young age, unlike me.

I'm 51 and have come to accept that I might never find them but at least I know the truth. See, in 1972 my adoptive mother was living separate from my adoptive father. She worked as a nurse at the hospital where I was born. Her parents invested in her and sent her from Guyana to Britain to study nursing. She had a miscarriage and felt shame. So, she adopted me to cover up her unfortunate mishap. It was a private adoption. So private that my adoptive father went to his grave thinking I was his real son.

my guess is the only reason I found out was because she couldn't live the lie anymore. And good for her. I will have nothing to do with her, but I thank her for raising me. I was quite a handful.

I wrote two poems yesterday and posted them. They were inspired by women and the struggles they go through. Take a read if you like.
SW-User
@Sapio oh wow, that’s quite a story too. Ya I will. ☺
SW-User
@Sapio keep reaching out, I hope you also get some answers
Sapio · 51-55, M
@SW-User thank you, I will. You shared something with me and all of us. I'd like to share something with you.

https://similarworlds.com/poetry/i-write/5091380-Waiting-to-Exhale-WOMAN-I-was-told-when-I-was-young-Its-okay