child support?

my sons father doesnt want to help me and wants to guve up his rights because i dont want to be with him and i dont think thats fair because he has a huge settlement and i need help and i would ask him for help he tells me he will give up his rights. If i apply for child support will he still be ordered to pay child support because this isnt fair!! Everyday hes telling me im going to suffer and its not fair at all , he constantly dangles how he has 100 k in his account because his mom died in a hospital.. regardless of the fact, men should not be able to run from responsibilities!!

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Sapio · 51-55, M

You're right. Men should not be able to run from their responsibilities but if they're paying child support, they should also get to see their children.

I paid child support right up until my order was no longer in effect. There were times I fell behind but I worked, hustled and got caught up. However, my biological children were used as a weapon of manipulation and I was told that the money I paid never went towards them. I have a problem with that. Accountability goes both ways.

Midlifemale · 61-69, M

@Sapio I agree. I've heard about that from many men. The courts should ask for accountability for where the money is spent and total income of that household. Some cases I know that there has to be a 3rd person present when the dad visits the kids....some situations are different.

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updown2020 · 61-69, M

@Sapio Well I could be wrong but child support is not give to the child directly it goes to the parent and the parent looks after the child. I do not think if you gave a $100 and the parents spends $100 and the child and say well that's all you get because thats all I got for you because the mom has to do there part also it just not one person raising the child.

Sapio · 51-55, M

@updown2020 no it's not to give to the child directly but it is given to assist with the cost of raising the child. So in reality it is for the child, for the care of the child. It's supposed to be utilized with the child in mind. And sometimes it isn't.

updown2020 · 61-69, M

@Sapio Well yes you are right but so far I believe with in the law there nothing to make sure the child is raised right. Well nothing I have heard of but I could be wrong. Unless the courts mandated the mother to keep accounting but that could be all lies also.

Sapio · 51-55, M

@updown2020 no there isn't anything in place to hold a payee accountable and I don't think there ever will be. In some cases there should be mind you but at the end of the day, it is what it is.

updown2020 · 61-69, M

@Sapio I also believe that when the parents splite up the kids should be the first ones to get lawyer because they are used and abused and used as ponds in the split up and that is very very wrong. The parents want to split up thats fine leave the kids out of it.

Spoiledbrat · F

If it pays the bills that's all that matters. @Sapio