How would you feel if you found out - years later - your dad loved someone other than your mom?...

TrinityRae · 41-45, F

I’d probably be mad and then sad and then just wouldn’t give a flip

Stephie · 22-25, F

In today's "screw and forget" society, this is more the rule than the exception. High body counts have become the norm and is nothing alarming anymore.

As long as the parents loved someone else before they got together, I am fine with it as it is none of my business to judge what they did, whom they saw and had intimate relationships before they got married. Who am I to judge?

However, if that would happen while they were (or still are) married, then I would be devastated because it would mean that the one of the parent did not respect the other enough to remain faithful. I would be shattered to know that the sexual hormones were more important than the love and care the other parent gave.

You don't state whether this love was prior to being married-

Piper · 61-69, F

I would be surprised to find out that my dad or mom had really loved someone other than each other, before or after they married. I already know that both of them must have liked and been interested in another person, before they met on a double date...not with each other.

I would be more shocked than devastated, I think, if I found out that my dad had loved another woman in the way indicated, after they married. There were no kinds of signs, and their love for and commitment to each other was evident in many ways.

SW-User

Meh. My dad was caught red handed. Mom is still with him, I wouldn't be surprised if he still gets up to some things. Whatever honestly. I didn't get much love and attention from either

bijouxbroussard · F

There might’ve been someone before he met her in college, perhaps while he was stationed overseas. Although when I’ve asked Pop if any half-sibs are out there he’s said "highly unlikely". After he met Mom—no. They were virtually inseparable from then until her passing. 🥺

mindstruggle · F

My dad had an affair when I was younger so I’m not surprised. I still respect him tho, cause I know he loved my mom and still the best dad for me.

DragonFruit · 61-69, M

My Dad did love someone other than my Mom....he loved his family. Romantically, Mom and Dad were inseparable.
When he wasn’t working, he was always with his family....it was said about my parents that the only time they weren't together was when one of them was using the bathroom.

OlderSometimesWiser · F

Mom and dad were no love match so the news would not be all that surprising and actually make a lot of things make sense.

Umile · 41-45, F

That's normal.

Part of life.

Not if you were raised really sheltered though.

CrazyMusicLover · 31-35

It wouldn't make any sense to me.

Adogslife · 61-69, M

Dad or Mom, if someone had a lover on the side, I’d just assume they weren’t getting the intimacy and attention they needed at home.

It wouldn’t bother me in the least. I’d be glad for their happiness.

Spoiledbrat · F

I couldn't care less.

Starcrossed · 41-45, F

I guess I would've been more surprised that it was Dad and not Mom. I low key think she might have been bi and was waiting to divorce my dad once my brother graduated but she died when I was 22 before that could happen.