What should I do?

My fiancé asked me to look for his ring, that he thought it was somewhere in the room so I did. I looked through everything, including his backpack he occasionally takes to work. I found his ring in there but I also found a pack of cigarettes. He knows how I feel about smoking-his father and younger brother are addicted and I felt lucky he wasn’t even trying because he sees how his dad struggles to quit. His father even after breaking ribs and struggling to breathe couldn’t quit. Anyways, i don’t know how or if i even should bring it up. Should I be subliminal and just bring up a conversation about cigarettes? I don’t know. He’s obviously hiding it from me since he doesn’t do it here with me or around the house. He had asked me months ago what I would do if I found out he picked up smoking and I responded with “you already know I think it’s dumb and setting yourself up” and he said nothing to that. I had my suspicions then but didn’t push further. I worry he will become like his father and starting this young would cause issues for him later. I really dislike that he’s smoking and especially that he’s hiding it because he knows it’s wrong. It feels disrespectful. Even when we were just dating he knew how I felt about cigarettes. It’s like he’s always doing whatever to fit in or look cool.

Ontheroad · M

He is lying to you and hiding things that are important to you... not a good sign and usually means he would rather lie than be truthful and deal with an issue.

You should bring it up and tell him how it bothers you... use "I" statements. Something along the lines of "I feel hurt and betrayed because I learned you are lying to me." Don't go into the conversation accusing him or he will get defensive.