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What do you do when you want a relationship with your siblings, but they don't seem to want one with you?

I have made it known how I feel.
I have asked why we don't get together and do things.
(I got no response, just "I don't know, we don't know")

This has been going on for years,

We have never been close.

We are several years apart, but since we are all adults, that really shouldn't matter.

Mom mentioned getting her grandkids (my nieces) Valentine's gifts.

I stated, " I would get them something but I never see them"
(Custody battle issues).

Then mom says, you should come on Saturdays, they come by almost every week.
(As far as I knew, they were with their dad every weekend)

I haven't seen them in months, yet they congregate 10 minutes away nearly every week and don't bother to mention it?

I really wonder what my future/ family/ holidays will look like in the future.

It's hurtful

I'm torn between saying something about it for the last time, even though I shouldn't have to, or just moving on and not talking to them anymore.
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being · 36-40, F
I've a question for you, are you really interested in your sibling as a person?
Or is it the idea or the feeling that you're siblings so you've got to have a relationship going?
I've asked this myself about my siblings.
iamnikki · 31-35, F
@being the latter.
If we were close growing up, maybe it would be the former, or both.
being · 36-40, F
@iamnikki I answered the same. So why are you trying to get close with a person you're not deeply appreciating? This confuses the other person, because everyone understands our deepest, truest feelings.
Let her/him spend their valuable time with someone who truly loves them, prioritises them and wants to be with them. That's time well spent, and my thinking..
iamnikki · 31-35, F
@being i never stated that I want to get close. I informed readers for the sake of clarity, that we have never been close. You can have a relationship with someone and not be close. What we have right now is basically non-existent.

I DO want to be with them.
being · 36-40, F
@iamnikki Why ?
iamnikki · 31-35, F
@being because they are my family. What is family for? To share life, and it's moments with.
Why am I being excluded?
Juliuskihoza · 46-50, M
@iamnikki okay
being · 36-40, F
@iamnikki because maybe deep down you don't want to be included, look there, make sure.. I'm sorry if I'm sounding cold. I'm not cold, I'm trying to be honest.
iamnikki · 31-35, F
@being I have two small nieces that I rarely get to see. I want to be in their lives and see them grow up but I guess it isn't meant to be.
Life sure is a funny thing.
being · 36-40, F
@iamnikki I too have three little nieces and a nephew.. I was in their lives at one point but it's difficult, I understand..