@NativePortlander1970 sorry

@XDHyperGirlXD1 (((((HUGS))))) It's alright, I prefer it that way for some odd reason I never fully understood why.

@NativePortlander1970 quick and painless lol

@YourMomsSecretCrush was? So he got his act together eventually ? That's good.

@TheOthetAcc not completely...... but, he is doing way way better than before. i gotta give my brother his due, for an addict, he is a very high functioning one.

@TheOthetAcc Very rough. Music was my way out.

@hunkalove How's the relationship with your siblings now?

@TheOthetAcc My parents are dead. I haven't heard from my brother since 1986 and I quit speaking to my sister when our father died in 2015 and she stole all the money from his estate.

@SumKindaMunster aww! 😂

@LeopoldBloom why did they have low expectations of her?

@TheOthetAcc

No! I was lol 😂 hard to explain, he was 10 when my dad died and he holds onto a lot of anger, he’s misunderstood by her.

@Fairydust Damn. Sorry I made fun of him. I had no clue

@TheOthetAcc
I didn’t take it like that ☺️ he’s fine and I think he’s healing now, I speak to him a lot on the phone and hopefully opened his eyes 👀 we’ve spoke about a lot of the past.
My mother can be very judgmental, she’s not the most encouraging person either.
She can be naughty, she complained he didn’t do anything for her but then I find out differently from him. 🙄

She can be very negative about him.

@Ducky But they still love you I'm certain 🙂

@TheOthetAcc Not particularly, we all just kinda keep to ourselves at this point. :)

@thepreposterouspanda How much younger is he?

@TheOthetAcc 8 years. There are two siblings in between as well.

@Jenny1234 What benefits did you get over your sibs?

@SW-User hmm. Usually the youngest hogs the spotlight. What happened?

@TheOthetAcc I'm the black sheep and don't fit in with them

@HootyTheNightOwl How did it benefit you?

@TheOthetAcc My mother kept me alive so that they could both abuse me...

@chasingThursday But I'm certain you are best if mates yeah?

@TheOthetAcc he is the only person who hangs out with me lol

@Picklebobble2 How do you guys get along?

@TheOthetAcc When we were kids we were very close. Our parents separated when he was 9 and i'd look out for him everywhere.
School; home; in the company of my Mother's relatives (they were all pretty openly anti our Father and weren't shy in letting us children know what they thought....even if an opinion was never sought)

Same once he got to Secondary (High) school.
Lot more vindictive little b@$t@rd$ in a school containing a 1000 pupils. Plus the odd Teacher similarly disposed.
Got myself in hot water a few times confronting Teacher and Pupil alike if he revealed something to me that sounded more punitive than it should have been.

As adults, he went his way and i went mine.
But he was first to get a permanent job where i was working agency stuff. He passed his driving test first where mine came a while later.
I went into working with people, he went into computer programming mid-80's.
Both 'booming industries' but at opposite ends of the pay scale.

He has a totally different outlook on life. Grab it now while it's going and don't worry about tomorrow. Where i've tried to be 'steady Eddie' with everything from jobs to relationships to finances etc.
We kinda drifted from each other and have an appreciation for but not a close relationship.
It's been under strain for the last twenty years or so as he partnered up and took care of his Wife's Mother. Having her move in with them and taking care of her until she died last year at 96.

This annoyed me somewhat as for the same time period our own parents barely got a look-in.
And now they're in their 80's he's living in a different country and calling them once a week.
Meanwhile, guess who gets the carer role ?

@V00doo is there a sibling rivalry? 👀

@TheOthetAcc Nah. We dont care about it between us

@NativePortlander1970 how did your relationship with mom develop over time?

@TheOthetAcc Strained cordial at best