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Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M
My younger brother.
He's outgoing and occasionally gregarious where i'm the complete opposite
He's outgoing and occasionally gregarious where i'm the complete opposite
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@Picklebobble2 How do you guys get along?
Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M
@SW-User When we were kids we were very close. Our parents separated when he was 9 and i'd look out for him everywhere.
School; home; in the company of my Mother's relatives (they were all pretty openly anti our Father and weren't shy in letting us children know what they thought....even if an opinion was never sought)
Same once he got to Secondary (High) school.
Lot more vindictive little b@$t@rd$ in a school containing a 1000 pupils. Plus the odd Teacher similarly disposed.
Got myself in hot water a few times confronting Teacher and Pupil alike if he revealed something to me that sounded more punitive than it should have been.
As adults, he went his way and i went mine.
But he was first to get a permanent job where i was working agency stuff. He passed his driving test first where mine came a while later.
I went into working with people, he went into computer programming mid-80's.
Both 'booming industries' but at opposite ends of the pay scale.
He has a totally different outlook on life. Grab it now while it's going and don't worry about tomorrow. Where i've tried to be 'steady Eddie' with everything from jobs to relationships to finances etc.
We kinda drifted from each other and have an appreciation for but not a close relationship.
It's been under strain for the last twenty years or so as he partnered up and took care of his Wife's Mother. Having her move in with them and taking care of her until she died last year at 96.
This annoyed me somewhat as for the same time period our own parents barely got a look-in.
And now they're in their 80's he's living in a different country and calling them once a week.
Meanwhile, guess who gets the carer role ?
School; home; in the company of my Mother's relatives (they were all pretty openly anti our Father and weren't shy in letting us children know what they thought....even if an opinion was never sought)
Same once he got to Secondary (High) school.
Lot more vindictive little b@$t@rd$ in a school containing a 1000 pupils. Plus the odd Teacher similarly disposed.
Got myself in hot water a few times confronting Teacher and Pupil alike if he revealed something to me that sounded more punitive than it should have been.
As adults, he went his way and i went mine.
But he was first to get a permanent job where i was working agency stuff. He passed his driving test first where mine came a while later.
I went into working with people, he went into computer programming mid-80's.
Both 'booming industries' but at opposite ends of the pay scale.
He has a totally different outlook on life. Grab it now while it's going and don't worry about tomorrow. Where i've tried to be 'steady Eddie' with everything from jobs to relationships to finances etc.
We kinda drifted from each other and have an appreciation for but not a close relationship.
It's been under strain for the last twenty years or so as he partnered up and took care of his Wife's Mother. Having her move in with them and taking care of her until she died last year at 96.
This annoyed me somewhat as for the same time period our own parents barely got a look-in.
And now they're in their 80's he's living in a different country and calling them once a week.
Meanwhile, guess who gets the carer role ?
