Sorry you have to go through that. My mom has emotionally black mailed me all my life, and threatens to pray ill against me if i dont respect her or do what she wants... but she loves me.

Its very strange to me.

I hope you put some distance between you and them. You have to make your marriage a priority. Had in-laws that jumped on the most minor thing to criticize as though they were being helpful. If they didn’t like the way I sliced a tomato they would instruct me as though it was their duty to tell me I was doing it wrong. I never saw any other family that sliced tomatoes the way they did but apparently to them their way was superior. That was just one small thing. There were bigger things and it was a lot, not just me but other daughter-in-laws. Because I didn’t let them tell me what to do I got called stubborn, my mother-in-law’s eyes would turn towards me when anyone was talking about someone else and calling them stubborn. In fact, they made things worse between me & my husband. My father-in-law would start lecturing him (not in front of me but a friend who worked with him told me about it) and he would start drinking binges.

Sorry to hear datt