It is difficult to accept that your parents can make life of their children difficult

My parents are emotionally blackmailing me. I think they are feeling insecure after I got married. They don't like my wife. They are behaving unreasonably. We have never things but they are unnecessary creating issues. They criticise my wife. Father is using filthy language. I protested and they became more hyper. Sometime they even start crying.

My wife is not perfect and I am also not. But it is not such that they are creating so much mess at home.

It is so difficult to believe that they really don't care about my happiness. I think they are not even aware that they are feeling insecure. They want control over us.

I am going through this tough time. I am just writing here because it helps me.

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cherokeepatti · 61-69, F

I hope you put some distance between you and them. You have to make your marriage a priority. Had in-laws that jumped on the most minor thing to criticize as though they were being helpful. If they didn’t like the way I sliced a tomato they would instruct me as though it was their duty to tell me I was doing it wrong. I never saw any other family that sliced tomatoes the way they did but apparently to them their way was superior. That was just one small thing. There were bigger things and it was a lot, not just me but other daughter-in-laws. Because I didn’t let them tell me what to do I got called stubborn, my mother-in-law’s eyes would turn towards me when anyone was talking about someone else and calling them stubborn. In fact, they made things worse between me & my husband. My father-in-law would start lecturing him (not in front of me but a friend who worked with him told me about it) and he would start drinking binges.

Somexyz · 36-40

@cherokeepatti your story resonate with mine. Please advice me how you manage ?

Desolate

Sorry you have to go through that. My mom has emotionally black mailed me all my life, and threatens to pray ill against me if i dont respect her or do what she wants... but she loves me.

Its very strange to me.

Somexyz · 36-40

@Desolate It is a difficult situation for children. I think parents need to understand that their children will love and respect them even more if they give them freedom.

I think the main reason why they emotionally blackmail or behave like that because they get insecure as their children become adult. But they need to understand that if they give freedom to their children,they will come closer to them.

Desertteddesert · 26-30, M

Sorry to hear datt

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