All of the self help material and psychology that I'm reading

they all agree that when you're healed, the relationships with your parents will heal. I just had a call with my dad but it felt like there has been no progress whatsoever. He began shouting at me out of nowhere but since I'm far from that, it sounded really awkward. I was intending to tell him about the martial arts competition but I didn't say anything.
I wouldn't like to risk any comment that would spoil my achievement, as his regulars.
I was hoping for something better.
I guess, let's move on 🌷

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WhateverWorks · 36-40

they all agree that when you're healed, the relationships with your parents will heal.

😶 That’s definitely not the position of mental health counselors/ family counselors. Actually makes me a little concerned/leery about the rest of whatever the materials are saying because it’s pretty harmful.. in a number of serious Ways.. to tell readers if they work on themselves it will fix/change other people (healing relationships is a two-sided street).

You handled the situation really well though externally and internally. 💜 That’s where you’ll see your progress. Your dad will still be who/how he is regardless of your inner work. If the relationship improves at all, it’s because your inner work has given you the skills/tools to be less affected/dragged into it, which means that interactions will often be less explosive than they used to be.