My husband thinks that autism is an excuse for attention.

Married 3 years to a good guy but he thinks I spoil my son when I visit him 1 or 2 times a week. I teach him to cook, bake, do laundry and wash up in his appartment. What am i doing wrong? My husband is not my son's father (he died). How can someone not understand that i love my son and want to help him be self sufficient. I'm not a psychiatrist so i can't help him in that area. But i can love and support and encourage my son. I don't understand how this nice person doesn't get it.

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Because your husband doesn't care to look at the reality of this situation. He wants to be your sole focus and feels that sharing yourself with your son in this manner is taking something away from him. It may also be a certain amount of guilt, or an excuse really, for not participating or even caring about this in the way that you do.