My husband thinks that autism is an excuse for attention.

Married 3 years to a good guy but he thinks I spoil my son when I visit him 1 or 2 times a week. I teach him to cook, bake, do laundry and wash up in his appartment. What am i doing wrong? My husband is not my son's father (he died). How can someone not understand that i love my son and want to help him be self sufficient. I'm not a psychiatrist so i can't help him in that area. But i can love and support and encourage my son. I don't understand how this nice person doesn't get it.

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PrincessRoarBuddy · F

Has ur son got Autism? Having that I would say is defo not looking for attention and sad that people do not notice what it is and think things without finding out more on what "Autism" really is..

You have not done anything wrong and u should keep telling ur husband that.

Also is there not any courses or information where you can show your husband what it is for someone with Autism to live and why they are different and might learn things and need more help than other people even when they are an adult they need to have help to maybe teach them how to do something.

Edit: Hey, by the way in a lot of countries I would think there is houses where adults with Autism can live who get help e.g. with everyday tasks: cleaning, if they are looking for a job and more also getting to know others with Autism.

Is this not a good idea for your son?

Oh and boys seem to be more easier to spot if they have something wrong with them than girls e.g. such as when it comes to having Autism or ADHD.

Have you taught your son to clean or do you always do it for him?

Savanah · 61-69, F

@PrincessRoarBuddy thank you for your reply. I do teach him but it's more complex than i stated. He has OCD. PTSD. Panic attacks. Anxiety and depression. Doesn't want meds. I love hi. But some days are very hard. I count on God to give me strength.

PrincessRoarBuddy · F

@Savanah

Hi.

Your welcome, I try to help others if I can or try to make them happier..

Ah right I get it, understandable that he needs more help with all those things and that it is hard for him to do things on his own.

I hope things work out and that things get sorted e.g. that ur husband knows how it is for you and ur son.. can you not talk with someone with your husband there e.g. a doctor to let him know how it really is to have all those things for an adult.