My husband thinks that autism is an excuse for attention.

Married 3 years to a good guy but he thinks I spoil my son when I visit him 1 or 2 times a week. I teach him to cook, bake, do laundry and wash up in his appartment. What am i doing wrong? My husband is not my son's father (he died). How can someone not understand that i love my son and want to help him be self sufficient. I'm not a psychiatrist so i can't help him in that area. But i can love and support and encourage my son. I don't understand how this nice person doesn't get it.

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SW-User

Sadly that's a common attitude. I am autistic and just moved into my own place last year. My parents still help me with things, and there were some years when I thought I would never be able to live on my own, but they don't do everything for me and I'm managing okay at this point. I don't know the details of your situation, but it doesn't sound like you're doing anything wrong with how you treat your son, it just sounds like it's something your husband can't relate to or understand very well.

Savanah · 61-69, F

@SW-User It's tough for my son because he doesn't have much friends (one) and he gets lonely and frustrated. My heart goes out to you. I wish my peace and happiness. Most of all never let anyone make you feel less than special. Because you are.

SW-User

@Savanah I can relate to that, since most of my friends moved away and I only really talk to people online. It can be tough.

And thank you.