My husband thinks that autism is an excuse for attention.

Married 3 years to a good guy but he thinks I spoil my son when I visit him 1 or 2 times a week. I teach him to cook, bake, do laundry and wash up in his appartment. What am i doing wrong? My husband is not my son's father (he died). How can someone not understand that i love my son and want to help him be self sufficient. I'm not a psychiatrist so i can't help him in that area. But i can love and support and encourage my son. I don't understand how this nice person doesn't get it.

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Casheyane · 31-35, F

I don't have experience in dealing with autism. And I don't aim to judge.

But what I do know is how too much doting isn't helpful to a boy, especially not to who supports and provides for him. Mom does it to my brother too. I hate the act more often than not to be honest.

People who receive too much tend to not put effort into getting stuff for themselves, because they know they'd be given it anyway.