My husband thinks that autism is an excuse for attention.

Married 3 years to a good guy but he thinks I spoil my son when I visit him 1 or 2 times a week. I teach him to cook, bake, do laundry and wash up in his appartment. What am i doing wrong? My husband is not my son's father (he died). How can someone not understand that i love my son and want to help him be self sufficient. I'm not a psychiatrist so i can't help him in that area. But i can love and support and encourage my son. I don't understand how this nice person doesn't get it.

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Northwest · M

Your husband, should take the time to learn what autism is all about.

But the real issue may be that your husband is the one in need of attention, and that the time you spend with your son, is not time you're spending paying attention to him.

Your primary responsibility, as a mother, is to your son, especially when he has a handicap that prevents him from being 100% self-sufficient.