My husband thinks that autism is an excuse for attention.

Married 3 years to a good guy but he thinks I spoil my son when I visit him 1 or 2 times a week. I teach him to cook, bake, do laundry and wash up in his appartment. What am i doing wrong? My husband is not my son's father (he died). How can someone not understand that i love my son and want to help him be self sufficient. I'm not a psychiatrist so i can't help him in that area. But i can love and support and encourage my son. I don't understand how this nice person doesn't get it.

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Savanah · 61-69, F

Teach someone to fish and they'll always have fish to eat. I teach him and he's a good listener.

Queendragonfly · 31-35, F

@Savanah I had a boyfriend and his mom made his laundry, put up new curtains, vacuum cleaned, made the bed, folded his clothes. She was his maid basically. And this mom saw it as helping him, but what she actually did was making him 100% dependent on her. A new girlfriend will expect an adult ass man to clean his own shit. To call for mom is a big red 🚩 and I hope that's not the case with your son.

There's a difference between supporting, and babying.