My husband thinks that autism is an excuse for attention.

Married 3 years to a good guy but he thinks I spoil my son when I visit him 1 or 2 times a week. I teach him to cook, bake, do laundry and wash up in his appartment. What am i doing wrong? My husband is not my son's father (he died). How can someone not understand that i love my son and want to help him be self sufficient. I'm not a psychiatrist so i can't help him in that area. But i can love and support and encourage my son. I don't understand how this nice person doesn't get it.

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Fukfacewillie · 56-60, M

If you're helping him be self-sufficient I don't get the issue.

Savanah · 61-69, F

@Fukfacewillie the issue is that my husband told me he's fed up of me helping my son. He has a daughter who is depressed and i told him if she were to live alone in an appartment, it would be normal that he pass by and help her in any way he can. She's not autistic but she's still his kid and it wud be ok.

Fukfacewillie · 56-60, M

@Savanah Why is he fed up -- less attention to him?

Savanah · 61-69, F

@Fukfacewillie Not really. I agree to everything my husband wants. I'm always available for him too. I told my husband that i show my love by encouraging, supporting and loving any way I can. I do it to him but he says it's normal to do that to your husband not your kid.

Fukfacewillie · 56-60, M

@Savanah He kinda sounds like a jerk (or maybe just about this)!