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I don't know what to do about my little sister.
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CountScrofula · 41-45, M
"I just hope this is a phase and not her personality."
Well, it's both, right. This is your sister, and this is who she is. However, she will also change as she gets older and hopefully mature and her behaviour will become less uh, antisocial for lack of a better word. Not gonna lie that's really concerning though.
Everyone is "that way" for a reason and knowing what that reason is may help figure out how you should be responding as her big sister. Like has she ever been through severe trauma or other really awful destabilizing situations in her life?
Well, it's both, right. This is your sister, and this is who she is. However, she will also change as she gets older and hopefully mature and her behaviour will become less uh, antisocial for lack of a better word. Not gonna lie that's really concerning though.
Everyone is "that way" for a reason and knowing what that reason is may help figure out how you should be responding as her big sister. Like has she ever been through severe trauma or other really awful destabilizing situations in her life?
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CountScrofula · 41-45, M
@Xalvadora God I'm so sorry. Your family life sounds like a perfect breeding ground for some severe mental health issues. The manipulative behaviour and lying sounds like NPD or BPD, both are possibilities.
She needs professional assistance and of course she's going to fight against that and it sounds like your family won't support but that's the solution.
Legit, you need to protect yourself as well.
She needs professional assistance and of course she's going to fight against that and it sounds like your family won't support but that's the solution.
Legit, you need to protect yourself as well.
Xalvadora · 18-21, F
@CountScrofula Yeah... The thing is, both my siblings and I are associated with the local community mental health and they never let her stick with a therapist.
Some even told me to talk to her, but what's that going to do? I'm not s professional? I may know a lot more than my family does, and just because I'm her sister, does not mean she'll listen to me, and they fail to realize that not all siblings will listen to the oldest.
I'm trying to protect myself the best way I can. I'm already approved for assiantace housing, I just need to give them a source of income and I'll be set. After that, I can finally live on my own.
Some even told me to talk to her, but what's that going to do? I'm not s professional? I may know a lot more than my family does, and just because I'm her sister, does not mean she'll listen to me, and they fail to realize that not all siblings will listen to the oldest.
I'm trying to protect myself the best way I can. I'm already approved for assiantace housing, I just need to give them a source of income and I'll be set. After that, I can finally live on my own.
CountScrofula · 41-45, M
@Xalvadora Helll yeah, getting out on your own is the best thing here. And yeah mental health services are limited and awful for most people, it's rough. It's what she needs but it's not like a magical cure. I hope your sister finds some stability as she gets older but getting to a safe place on your own needs to be priority #1.
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