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Coming to terms with the fact that you are your mother's least favorite child...

I've invited her out to eat 3 times, she declined.
I live 15 minutes away from her, however, she will drive 30 minutes away to go visit my sisters. She will come over if she needs help with her computer or smartphone.
She will ask me to come over to fix her TV.
She recently indicated that she was sad so i offered to come over and bring her food and drink ... no response. When my sister invited her over, she's on top of that.

My mother is 75 and we've never really been that close, but damn, why not just tell me to my face that you'd rather not be bothered instead of ignoring and avoiding me. It's additionally aggravating because there's no talking with her about how I feel. She'd just downplay the issue.
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StrictDiscipline · 56-60, M
I would stop initiating any contact with her and wait for the requests for technical help. Just say you are busy each time and eventually she will stop contacting you entirely.

Then you know where you stand and have confirmation that she was never really interested in you as a person. I would rather face the truth than live a lie pretending that she really cares about me. You can't make people like you so best to cut them loose.
@StrictDiscipline Yes, I've decided it's best to stop putting myself out there to get shut down.
StrictDiscipline · 56-60, M
@DreamyCrush It's sad to face the truth that she has no close feelings for you. But I wouldn't let myself be used any more and just move on.
Time for your sisters to learn some IT skills. She would probably be more grateful to them even if they botched the fix.
zorroo · 56-60, M
@DreamyCrush please don't do that, she is the one who brought you to life, whatever is going on between you and her never forget that she is the one who raised you when you were a little girl.
just ask any one who lost their mother and see how much they are willing to do or pay just to see their mother alive again just for a moment.
Fluffybull · F
@zorroo Some mothers deserve more respect than others in my experience.
zorroo · 56-60, M
@Fluffybull each one of us has only one mother and she is the only one who deserves son/daughter's respect and love, other mothers are all equals for being loved or respected.