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My gf/baby’s mother treats me like shit most days.

Hanging in there hoping things will change but she’s depressed and shit and disrespectful to me. Like really I pay 100 % of the bills for you, me, my daughter and her daughter my step daughter and I can’t get any respect most days, get treated like shit most days? I wish I was single I’d be better off I could sell my house and pocket $100,000 and live less miserably because of her. I want to see other girls but I also want to wait and try to work it out for my baby daughter. Just venting. Advice and input would be nice thanks
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Heavenlywarrior · 36-40, M
You might want to get ya balls back in a nutshell… that’s what happens when Men show so much love and she becomes codependent… it happened to me.

You might want to hang out with the fellas more… start being more spontaneous. Like you not coming home when she expect.

And the disrespect may get worse but if she not willing to respect you as a man, she going to respect someone else as a man.
Diotrephes · 70-79, M
@YoungGunna Instead of arguing and flipping out, try telling her how much you love her and how happy and excited you are to see her when you come home everyday. Tell her how sweet her kisses are and how calming her touches are. Lay it on thick. Then tell her, because you love her so much and want her to be happy, you feel depressed at the thought that you are not making her happy and fulfilling her dreams and desires for what she wants in a husband. Put the blame on yourself for failing her. Never blame her in any way because it will only make her angry and things will become sour very quickly. If she comes to your defense you will know that she still loves and want you. If she attacks you in any way then you know that you have some real problems and need to start working on a solution that will be reasonable for you.

Remember, if you get divorced you will have to pay child support for years, which will take a big chunk out of your wallet. Then, there's the property settlement so you could end up homeless if you don't have enough money left over after paying child support and other expenses to afford a place to lay your head.

BTW, if you think other women will be an improvement you are cruising for a real bruising.

Good luck.
black4white · 56-60, M
Yo young fella…slow your roll and just step up your game in the hubby/bf roll. Let her know how you are feeling and see where it goes and if you can do this over a nice dinner with just her. Let her know the real you and that you WANT everything to work out but you need this this and this and ask what can you do to help things move better as well.

Now for the sister of hers… just be super cool with her and leave it at that…peep and keep peeping and build a friendship because after all she is/will be the sis in law
Justmeraeagain · 56-60, F
Does she know how her actions are affecting you?
Do you talk to each other?
I honestly caution you about just going out and dating other women that's never really a good solution.
If you want to work this out and want to test if she really wants to work it out then I would suggest that you talk to her about getting some kind of counseling and see if she's receptive to that.
GoFish ·
Seems like you don't have any respect either
Belladonna · 41-45, F
I wish I could advise you, but I've only ever had shit luck with relationships. It's hard to say what would be best. Holding it together for the kids can be damaging to the kids, but so can splitting up. It's a difficult situation. I hope you find the solution that's right for you. Good luck.
Depression usually controls the person, most people can’t control depression. Even diabetes is easier to control you shoot up some insulin and you are good for the day. Not with depression
HannibalMontanimal · 31-35, M
Don't put up with her shit
DeluxedEdition · 26-30, F
what is she doing that's "treating you like shit"
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YoungGunna · 31-35, M
@DeluxedEdition I wouldn’t be looking at her sister if she treated me better. First of all I’m a man, 2nd of all I’m faithful, 3rd of all you don’t know the whole story not even close..

 
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