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Has any of you COMPLETELY cut relations with family?

I am seriously considering to completely cut relations with my siblings when i move to Canada... Seems cold hearted... but the way I see it, the relationships is already COMPLETELY not there with the majority of them, and pretty much not there with the rest, and the fact that it barely exists causes me a lot of stress... So why keep it around? What good is it doing me?

Especially that once I move to Canada, I do NOT want to pretend to be Muslims, not with anyone, not even them... and so knowing that they won't like it and will look down upon me for it, and will overstep their boundaries, I think it may be best to just cut it entirely.
BlueVeins · 22-25
Warranted as far as I'm concerned. Might be better to just tell them you've left the faith, wait for whatever response they have, and then cut it off when and if they respond as expected. Might be more satisfying that way, instead of having to wonder what they'd have said.
Elessar · 26-30, M
I support your decision. If they'd rather lose you over religious bullsh*t it's not worth doing any unilateral effort to keep them around in the first place.
BittersweetPotato · 31-35, F
@Elessar My relationship with them deteriorated since they JUST "suspected" about religion, so imagine how it would be when I outright say it and live my life completely as a non Muslim, in the sense that they would know that I could have non marital relations/drink/or dress however I wish.. I can't see it doing any good and the thing is, I do not want to pretend and hide when I talk to them, while I do these things because I am away... Yea I won't have to pretend in real life because they won't be around, but then, why did I even immigrate if I am still going to lie about it!! I do not want to pretend in ANY way! I am sick of and done with that!
HannibalAteMeOut · 22-25, F
I think eventually the ties will cut themselves. Once you're there and you start being yourself freely, you won't be wasting your time to appeal to them and they'd probably already be calling you a "traitor". I guess it can't happen all at once but the distance will help a lot.
DrWatson · 70-79, M
My father eventually cut ties with his siblings (His parents had already died by then. And he had no extended family in this country, as his parents had immigrated from Italy. ) He had always been the "different" one.

But even after that, he would get a phone call from one of them to let him know that someone had died. He would be cordial on the phone, but he would not pursue the relationship with the caller beyond that.

I have to say that he seemed a lot happier after he made this decision.
Nanori · F
I would've done it when I was 18 if I could
Chelsiegirl · 46-50, T
I did.. i have not talking to them for 20 years.. its not a trans issue.. we just have different styles of talking to each other and live totally different lifes. i cant relate to them.
Justmeraeagain · 56-60, F
I cut ties with a narsssicist nephew it brought a lot of relief.
AntisocialTroll · 56-60, F
I have done this, I have no regrets.
TheLordOfHell · 41-45
I'm seconds away from severing ties with a nephew. I hope your decision brings you peace. You shouldn't have to pretend around anyone, especially your family.
BittersweetPotato · 31-35, F
@TheLordOfHell Exactly.. is it the case that we should be the most honest with family!!!
Lilnonames · F
Yes sometimes you must stand on own two feet and save your own skin

Give them a push and go your own way

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