So I have this little brother with autism

He's 19 now but he's still just a kid & he still needs help.

He lives with my mom, who is very unstable. She bounces place to place & rarely has her own place to live. My little brother doesn't have anyone else but her to rely on. His dad died long ago, & he doesn't know that side of his family. & Our mom's side of the family wants nothing to do with her.. so she has nobody in her family either. Therefore, my brother has no one else but my mom.

My mom has been on drugs for a long time. Sometimes she's better, sometimes she's not. Months ago, she disappeared without a word or warning. Her apartment got locked due to non-payment, & she was just gone 🤷 nobody knew where she was... not even my little brother who my mom's supposed to be there for.
It took her daaays before she reappeared & took him with her. Still don't know where she went though.

My little brother just called me this morning for the first time ever since all that happened. He didn't sound concerned, he was chilling, watching tv at the moment. So we just talked about how he's doing & what he's been doing for fun, how he's been making money (he always helps people & makes money for it.. idk how lmao).

It makes me happy he sounds okay & that he has a phone again to call me. But I'm still disappointed in my mom 😒 like you're all that kid has, why do you have to make him live like this? 😔

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DeluxedEdition · 26-30, F

My sisters mom does this. One time my sisters little brother was threatening to kill himself and he hasn’t been to school in years. He was 13 years old and illiterate and extremely overweight because all he does is eat snacks

I hate to even admit to this but I was so concerned I actually called cps on them. They probably saw that she had them living in a borderline crack house and removed him and now he’s living with his best friend

Again I hate to do that because I have personally been a victim of systemic abuse by my sons family calling dcf on me and making up false allegations but I felt like it was necessary. Especially when this poor kid is crying about his mom not wanting him and threatening to kill himself

My sister isn’t much better. She’s basically a drug dealer with her gang banging boyfriend and he’s in prison currently because he set her up. My mom and her friend are raising her two small kids but the sad part is when my sister gets out she’s just going to go back to doing it again. I’m pretty sure she’s strung out on meth

These kind of situations hurt so bad because all you can do is spectate while the unjust acts are being done to our loved ones, and there isn’t much we can do to help. And it’s so heartbreaking.

What are we supposed to do? Not think about it? I wish I could tell you something reassuring but the sad reality is these kinds of situations out out of our hands 😞

I’ll be praying for you 🙏

ChiefJustWalks · 26-30

@DeluxedEdition i get that. It sucks because you see it but you can't really do anything yourself. I wish I had the means to just take my brother & have him live with me but I can't 😔
You probably did the right thing regarding your sister's little brother. As much as it sucks to see them taken away, sometimes the environment they live in is worse anyway. So being taken away from it might help more than harm.

I have a different little brother who lives with an adopted family. I just barely found out about this because his dad disappeared with him years ago. My mom has been depressed ever since they disappeared trying to find them because she wants her son back. Actually, it turns out THAT is the reason she disappeared months ago.
She found her ex husband so she went to him in person to find her son. Only to find out he gave their son up to another family they don't even know.

She wrote me a long message explaining all of this, which has been her only contact with me since this all happened. I took a few days to even say anything but I was still disappointed. Because I get it... but I looked up the family he's with after I found out. They look like a married couple who began adopting kids. Idk their background but I can't help but think "isn't he better off where he's at, instead of going back to his mom or dad who are both on drugs & unstable as hell?"
Like I miss him too & I feel bad for him because I hope he doesn't feel unloved by his real family, but at the same time, maybe that's the best chance at life he has right now.

I do wish your family well though 🙏 I hope your sister straightens out, even though sometimes that never happens.. i still hope though.

DeluxedEdition · 26-30, F

@ChiefJustWalks I heard this saying once and the saying goes “just because the decision made you sad doesn’t mean it was the wrong decision”

I think your adopted brother is better off. I hope and pray the situation for your autistic brother can get better. Your mom needs to put him first. Your kids will always love you the drugs don’t do anything good except destroy

ChiefJustWalks · 26-30

@DeluxedEdition yeah I agree. I get that my mom misses her son.. but he's okay. She needs to put her focus on the one she has first.. while he's still there