Im ready to give up on her.

So im finally home. What a long day.
After leaving the hospital i wanted to see my kids so i went there first. My wife asked me to stay so she could run a few errands.

I told her i was exhausted, i haven't slept in days and i needed to get my new medications.

She turns and calls my boy saying im here to watch the football game with him. He runs in and jumps in my arms. He's so excited. I want to go off on her. Tell her no and leave but how could I.
Please don't be long i say.
She grabs her bag and leaves.
We watched the game. Cooked dinner. Cleaned up.
Got they clothes ready for school tomorrow.
Gave my son a bath. Helped my daughter with a report and tucked them both in for bed.
She returns home at 945pm.

Thanks she said i needed a break.
I turn and walk outside and wait for my uber.

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CommandLine · 56-60, M

@Cigarguy101 Maybe she did need a break, but a bit of notice would have been good.
You just came out of hospital, what the hell does she think she is doing. What if you had a relapse, whilst looking after the kids? She just sounds like a very selfish woman.
@MonaReeves86 Cigarguy101 clearly isn't giving up on his kids, but I understand where you are coming from. A lot of single/separated/divorced women get no support from the guy and have the kids 24/7. Most do not see it as a hardship to look after their kids, but they still need and deserve support.

It often looks like the guy is getting off easy, but this is clearly not the case here.
If you want to bite my head off for anything, feel free.

Cigarguy101 · 41-45, M

@CommandLine thank you. I don't think i was out of line for being upset with her. I just got released from the hospital. I went in Friday afternoon.
I barely got any sleep there. I was so tired i ubered over there because i was afraid to drive. But i missed them, she didn't even bring them to see me Saturday so i wanted to stop by and let them know i was ok.

If anyone needs a break its me. I have never onced viewed taking care of my children as babysitting. I have been a hands on dad since my daughter was born. I have never missed a game, concert, shcool party or even a field trip that needed extra hands. I worked the night shift so i could be there during the day to help her.

She wasn't had to work since we got married.

CommandLine · 56-60, M

@Cigarguy101 No you are far from being out of line. Many women would be glad to have a guy like you as the father to their children.
It sounds like their mother has moved on, but forgot to even give a shit about you and how you are. I have known women like that and they ain't worth the hassle.
You clearly love your kids and will do anything for them, but she had no right to drop that on you at that time. You do need a break.

Cigarguy101 · 41-45, M

@CommandLine thank you friend

SlippingAway

She's being incredibly unfair and uncaring to you. I am sorry but she sounds like an user

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MonaReeves86 · 36-40, F

@SlippingAway a mother never had time to heal none thinks what she been going through it’s easy for a man too get rest for days but a mother never does

SlippingAway

@MonaReeves86 that's not always true not nowadays

Cigarguy101 · 41-45, M

@MonaReeves86 you have no clue what you are talking about. Every day i pick up our kids from school. I take tgem to my apartment. I help them with their homework. I cook dinner with them. I drop them off around 8 so with thier mom.
I pick them up Saturday mornings and keep them until Sundays evens.
So don't tell me im giving up on my kids.
Everything i do is for them. Ive been having some health issue the past few months. But im still the bad guy here.

DownTheStreet · 56-60, M

Hear you loud and clear

MonaReeves86 · 36-40, F

So if you give up on her you’re giving up on your child just because you had to babysit for a day after hospital we’ll see what it’s like for women there’s none there to help them with the kids or the house when they get sick they have to take care of everything without help everyday

Cigarguy101 · 41-45, M

@MonaReeves86 clearly you haven't read any of my other post ive shared on here.

OogieBoogie · F

@MonaReeves86 Mona, you need to do a little research and read carefully before you comment.

He had just spent a few days in hospital. He has heart issies. Tics, which can be exhausting within themselves......and his wife was the one who asked him to separate.

Plus, he works.

Cut him some slack before unfairly going off at him.

Yes, some mothers work hard .
But so do some Dads.

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Cigarguy101 · 41-45, M

@Darksideinthenight2 yes it does

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