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I relate a lot to Marilyn Monroe. Neither of my parents loved me…anyone else?

I know the movie isn’t a biopic.. but there are many details that are true including that her father never wanted to see her and her mother was mentally ill, hospitalised in an institution most of her life. Well I can relate! My father refuses to be in my life and my mother is mentally ill… I’m also 34 and I spent much of my childhood isolated and alone.. I was physically abused by my mother having been removed by child protection services at age 9. I pined for my dads love.. I would call and try to talk to him and yearned for his attention and love so much. Hes ignored me my whole life. It really affected me in my teens and twenty’s when I started seeking other male attention.. I’m blessed to of met my husband and had children of my own. I’m also successful having started a multimillion dollar business 5 years ago..I’m successful and smart and beautiful and I have a great life, with lots of people who respect and love me, and like me and care about me….I have a beautiful family. I’d like to think any normal father would be so proud. Not mine I thought if I made enough money or was the most successfull, or had the most beautiful family and children that it would draw him in, but sadly I’ve come to accept that it’s done the opposite. He’s ignored me even more… and swatted me away and been too busy to call me back or anything…it’s devastating..I don’t understand a father who doesn’t love his daughter. My own husband just eats sleeps and breathe our children so effortlessly.. he loves them so much. I don’t know how to justify my dads actions in my brain except to think maybe he just has a mental illness. Can anyone relate? I know if Marilyn were here she could’ve. Which makes me feel less alone :-/

Bless all you beautiful souls. 🥰
Grateful4you · M Best Comment
MM was actually quite an intellectual. I t think you are far more mentally intact than you give yourself credit for. Let the past stay where it is and start living for today with your focus being on YOU and your happiness and goals for a better future.

You seem to have good insights, be happy seek to make others happy.
@Brassm0nk3y Oh wow. Thanks for such kind words and BC. Means a lot to me. Have a great evening hon.
Brassm0nk3y · 36-40, F
Very solid advice, yes you too! Thank you!🥰@Grateful4you

riseofthemachine · 41-45, M
Im happy with your doing well with relationships and family and business .
Can i tell you something and i know it's close to the bone with family and sorry for being to close and not im an ignorant way I'm saying this to you .
Your on about success in a business right .
This is what i wanted to say and i have to pass it onto myself at times . YOUR A SUCCESS WHEN YOU DONT CARE WHAT PEOPLE THINK OF YOU . Thats a success cause you can have all the money in the world and have no peace .
It's good you have money now cause you have to run a family of your own but do you get where im coming from about a success . I HAVE TO PASS THAT ONTO MYSELF ALSO
graphite · 61-69, M
Spent 16 years terrified of my father until I moved out and never spent another night under the same roof with him. He died so alone, having done so much to alienate himself from his children, etc, that no one's even sure what day he died. He should have been surrounded by children, grandchildren, great-grandchildren, but screwed it up so badly, deliberately, he died with no one but himself around.
Brassm0nk3y · 36-40, F
@graphite Isn’t that so sad. I think it’s thought provoking how you put it as “he screwed its up so badly”.. you’re right because that’s not how life is supposed to be. You sounds like you’ve done some healing to be able to put it that way. Does your heart hurt at all from the experience of having experienced the absentism from your father ? Did it get easier for you as time passed or do you ever have moments still where you wished it hadn’t been that way?
graphite · 61-69, M
@Brassm0nk3y As I get older and realize all the abuse (when you're a kid being abused, you think thats how life is supposed to be), I get angrier. But there's nothing left to do but move forward. He and anyone else involved are dead now and can't be questioned or chastised. FWIW, I'm not the only one in my age group who had this kind of garbage. Baby boomers were beaten by their parents in a way kids today can only imagine.
Brassm0nk3y · 36-40, F
Ugh wow. sad, but at least we aren’t alone. I wish others were more open about their experiences like this. It might help us all find some healing to know we aren’t by ourselves in this kind of experience ❤️@graphite
Adstar · 56-60, M
I am surprised how often this happens.. But it does happen.. There are people who have kids not because they actually want to have a loving relationship with their own children.. Some men have kids because they have a sense of duty or what to be accepted more in society.. Some woman have kids in an attempt to keep a man.. There are probably many more reasons why people have kids for reasons other then love.. But no matter, it's a terrible situation for the kids irrespective of the reasons..
Brassm0nk3y · 36-40, F
That’s true @Adstar. You’re right many men have them like you said because they feel a sense of duty to. Just because someone is your biological father doesn’t mean they are a good dad. ❤️🥰
I guess some guys unfortunately just don't value fatherhood.. at least your children have a different experience..
Brassm0nk3y · 36-40, F
True! Thank you @SStarfish
Brassm0nk3y · 36-40, F
Wow! I’ve never thought of success as defined as that, but I really think you’re onto something. I’ll be adding that to my definition. Might take work, but we’ll worth it. Hope you’re doing well @riseofthemachine . You always have the best advice 😀
riseofthemachine · 41-45, M
@Brassm0nk3y Do you know where my advice comes from - PAIN - 😂😂😂😊
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