Time to let go

It’s hard to see my dad in so much pain. I’ve always struggled to form a relationship with him because he would be out of it from his pills or just in a lot of pain. I’ve gone back and fourth between being resentful that we don’t have a relationship, to mad about judge mental things he’s said, but seeing him separate his pills from 10 pill bottles into his daily box and going down stairs to get his box of fentanyl patches because he can’t go down three flights of stairs was tough. I think it’s time to forgive him but I don’t know how.

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nonsensiclesnail · F

Takes time. And… like working on yourself. A decision to do it. Forgiving yourself and finding healing for your own wounds . If you’re the religious sort, a lot of talked with God. A little bit of anger. You will forgive him when you’re ready. But it’s not simple.

Reflective · 36-40, M

It feels like it will be one of those things I work at slowly and then eventually realize I’ve moved on from it. Sort of like how I stopped resenting my mom a few years after she passed because i realized I was only holding onto stuff to protect myself from her which I didn’t need to do anymore because she was gone.

nonsensiclesnail · F

@Reflective it does seem like one of those things. I think Ive forgiven mine and then the anger boils up again. I’ve not found a way to make that stop. I spend too much time in my head. New issues come about and bring up old wounds that I thought I’d healed. So, I keep trying.

SW-User

You can mourn the relationship you didn't have, while supporting and caring for the broken man

He is a lot smaller than your hurt x

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