My mom is such a horrible liar...she lies to my sister which she lives with, terrible lies, manipulative

She learned to do that as a coping mechanism towards my stubborn dad, to turn things her way...
I don't argue with that any longer but I feel sorry every time we talk and she tells me about her lies, asking me not to tell anyone. I can't bother telling her that I don't want to hear these stories any longer, I've argued for long about these and now I only let her be. I have to accept her the way she is and unfortunately knowing that this blocks my sister forever for healing, as she's getting further traumatized. Aah.

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Pawan · 31-35, M

Whatever but she is mom, you must try to understand her views too before jumping to any decisions.

mysteryespresso ·

She must have her reasons

Coppercoil · M

Now that is shitty.

REMsleep · 41-45, F

We cannot control others ( which it seems that you have learned already).
We can only control how we handle the people and situations in our lives.
If something is making your life worse and hurting you then remove it from your life.
I don't mean not to speak to your mom but I mean not to listen to her lies.
If she begin lying just say, " Well mom I'm going home now. I love you".
Or you can say once and calmly, " I don't want to hear about that".
And eventually she will learn that there is no point in meantioning these things to you because you will leave quickly.
Also try to have understanding for her. She must have began this behavior for some reasons which you hinted at.

LordShadowfire · 46-50, M

Someone like that is going to end up alone.

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