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I wonder when I’ll stop calling everything my Mom’s?

She’s been dead over two years. Everything is in my name. But I still feel like it’s hers. She built all this, but never got to complete it. The man she married left it in dire need of every possible repair before he dumped it and ran. Now here I am trying to fix and finish all the beauty she created. It just doesn’t feel like mine because I still feel her with me.
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Carissimi · F
I am sorry for your loss. Two-years is not a long time after bereavement. Just accept how you feel, and as time goes by ... maybe a few more years ... you will feel like they are yours, but it doesn’t matter if that doesn’t happen. Those items are a loving association with your mom.
RebelFox · 36-40, F
@Carissimi Thank you 🖤 She raised me alone, so I know I’m heavily influenced by her, but also she pushed me to be myself. Being in her space was crushing at first, especially the way it was left. But I like what Cherokee said too, we share it now. I do sometimes forget that it hasn’t been that long. To me she’s just gone and I’m not even over that yet. I miss her. But so thankful for everything she did for me. She was incredible.
Carissimi · F
I liked what Patti said too. She’s right, you are sharing.

Two-years is not long at all. At two-years post my late husband’s death I was still crying in the grocery store when I would see one of his favorite items. The grief would wash over me like a wave, and I would have to leave the store without my shopping, so I could go cry in my car.

Everyone is different, but it can take a very long time (it took 7-years after my fiancé was murdered, when I was younger) to feel almost normal again, but you never forget them. @RebelFox
RebelFox · 36-40, F
@Carissimi Oh sweet lady you have experienced a lot of grief. I’m sorry and I appreciate you sharing with me. That sounds very raw, and cheers to your heart. It selfishly helps to hear about your experience because it takes those hard jabs in life to understand another’s hard jabs. And all I’ve really wanted was to not feel so alone with this intensity of grief that seems to frighten people. And you can carry on, it’s just the nature of your story that is hard to hear. I hear you and thank you for hearing me 🖤
Carissimi · F
I wish you comfort and love. @RebelFox